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Deserting one’s family to perform Da‘wah

Deserting one's family to perform Da‘wah 1

Question

What is the ruling of deserting one’s family for the pretext of performing Da‘wah (Islamic propagation)?

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

The wife and children have specific rights that should be fulfilled as much as possible. The Prophet  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) told us that every one is responsible for the people who are under his guardianship. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Moreover, the Prophet  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) said that it is indeed a great sin for a person not to shoulder the responsibility of those who are under his guardianship. [Ahmad, An-Nawawi : Authentic]

If a person takes care of his family’s expenses, he can then dedicate himself to calling to Allah The Almighty and working for the sake of his religion. In fact, if the person has good insight, he would be able to strike a balance between people’s rights and his religious duties and not do one thing to the detriment of another. This is proved by the Hadeeth that was narrated on the authority of Salman  may Allah be pleased with him who said that he visited Abu Ad-Dardaa’  may Allah be pleased with him and found Um Ad-Dardaa’, may Allah be pleased with her, wearing shabby clothes, so he asked her about that. She told him that her husband Abu Ad-Dardaa’  may Allah be pleased with himwas an ascetic who did not care for the joys of this worldly life.

When Ad-Dardaa’  may Allah be pleased with him came, he welcomed Salman  may Allah be pleased with him and offered him food, but he did not eat with him as he was fasting. Salman  may Allah be pleased with himsaid that he would only eat if Ad-Dardaa’  may Allah be pleased with him ate with him (so he ate). At night, Ad-Dardaa’  may Allah be pleased with him wanted to get up to pray, but Salman  may Allah be pleased with him told him to sleep. Before dawn, Salman  may Allah be pleased with him told him to get up and pray, and they both went out to pray the Dawn prayer. At that time, Salman  may Allah be pleased with him told him that there are certain rights for Allah The Almighty, some for himself, and others for his family and that he should fulfill all these rights.

When they went to the Prophet  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) he  sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allah exalt his mention ) agreed with what Salman  may Allah be pleased with him had said and done. [Al-Bukhari]

Al-Hafith ibn Hajar  may Allah have mercy upon him said that this Hadeeth proves that it is permissible to quit something that is preferable for fear that it might lead to apathy or might waste other ordained or more preferable rights.

Allah Knows best.


 

Fatwa answered by: The Fatwa Center at Islamweb